Day Five

Apologies to any of you who have been here earlier today, last night as we crawled into bed, Ray told me to poke him this morning and he'd get up with the kids and let me sleep in. Wow! Of course they all slept until 8:45, but I didn't have to do breakfast or any of the other morning stuff. It was a nice break!

So DAY FIVE! This one talks about rudeness, things we do or say, in front of our spouse that we would never do in front of strangers or friends. These things just aren't okay. Of course I immediately think of the belching that Ray always does. EEEWWW! I am not with Shrek in the theory of 'better out than in', I think it's gross, and although it is occasionally necessary, it is something that can be controlled. Eewww. again.

But of course this isn't about what Ray is doing, it's about me, so here's the test it gives:

How does your spouse feel about the way you speak and act around them? Ummm.... probably like I'm degrading him all the time about his gross sense of humor?

How does your behaviour affect your mate's sense of worth and self-esteem? Ummmm... probably makes him feel fairly worthless, and like I don't like him much.

Would your husband say you are a blessing, or that you're condescending and embarrassing? Ummm... well.... depends on the day??? Honestly, I know that I occassionally reprimand him or dirty-look him in front of others (usually when he's embarrasing me), but I know that in turn that embarrasses him too. Ugh. The vicious cycle.

So, the dare today is to literally ask Ray to tell me three things that cause him to be uncomfortable or irritated with me. I have to do this without attacking or justifying my behaviour.

Great.

So, I guess I'll share the answers with you later. If I have to. Lol! Pray about this one folks, who really wants to ask something like that???

~~UPDATE~~

Me: Can you tell me three things that I do that cause you to be uncomfortable or irritated with me?

Ray: Is this a facebook quiz?

Me: (Smiling) No.

Ray: (looking suspicious) is this a test?

Me: No.

Ray: Are you gonna tell me three things I do that irritate you?

Me: (smiling more) No.

Ray: (thinking) irritates or embarrasses? Those are wierd words. You don't do anything that I can think of.

Me: (shooting him the 'yeah right' look.)

Ray: Really. I can't think of anything. (turns away, done with the conversation).

Okay, so that's how it went. No answers. Of course now that the question is on the table, it will always be there for him to use against me. Later on in the day he tried to grope me and I smacked his hand away. "THAT annoys me!" He said with a smile. Great.

So, pray harder for me. PLEASE. Lol!