DAY Two

So, DAY TWO is to continue to be nice, no harsh words, be patient with Ray, and in addition (just as it states in the movie) I need to surprise him with an act of kindness. Basically we are discovering that to be patient means you stop with bad reactions, but to be kind is to go past that and actually do something nice, even when it's undeserved. Hmmmmm.... what to do.... I'll get back to you all soon. Keep praying, and let me know if you've stopped in.

UPDATE~~

So, I tried to be kind all day, with little things. Made coffee for him before he got up, tried to observe and thank him for the things he did for me (ie. making supper and cleaning up after it, while keeping the kids happy while I had a very long conference call)- and I didn't mention that he didn't wash the table or counter when he cleaned up. ;P When we went out I got up to get myself a coffee, and when I came to sit back down, I realized that no one had offered Ray on, including me, so I passed him mine, and went to get another one. That was the kind of thing I'm always wishing he'd do for me, without being asked. When he looked surprised and said 'Oh! Thank you', I realized that I haven't done much of that either!! I also gave him a back massage, as he claims to be a 'physical touch' guy, I thought perhaps that would mean more to him. I struggled a few times with not criticizing, and caught myself in the middle of some not encouraging sentences, so I stopped and apologized immediately. It was nothing that needed to be said, but my mouth has been used to spitting venom. As an example, He was suggesting something for dinner, and I shot him down, telling him that that was the 'wrong' food to have with his suggestion. Of course I bought what he wanted, and then he was mad. I had to explain that his was the wiser choice. The kids would like it better, and it was less than half the price, he'd made a better choice than mine. So, that's the day in a nutshell. Again, no big conflicts... yet...keep praying!