Okay, so today talks about being irritated. About how often when we are stressed due to relational stress, monetary stress, health issues, or selfishiness, we hover on the borderline of anger, just waiting for anything to push us over. It's true. So, real love doesn't wait for a push, it forgives quickly and practices patience. It needs something really big to have to fight for it, not the little everyday stuff that builds in everyday life. We are not to be annoyed by everything our spouse says or does, that is not healthy and it is very selfish to hold all these things together until we can't hold it in and we explode.
Today's dare is to look for the things that are creating stress in our lives, and to create margins around them, in order to better protect our hearts and minds from stress that will cause irritation, and cause us to be easily angered. I am to make a list of these things, and how I will change them.
This is WAY harder than it may seem.
"If I speak with the tongues of men and of angels, but do not have love, I have become a noisy gong or a clanging cymbal." "If I have the gift of prophecy, and know all mysteries and all knowledge; and if I have all faith, so as to remove mountains, but do not have love, I am nothing." "And if I give all my possessions to feed the poor, and if I surrender my body to be burned, but do not have love, it profits me nothing." - 1 Corinthians 13:1-2 The Love Dare - book by Stephen & Alex Kendrick from the movie "Fireproof"
Im curious about your list. I hope you are realistic in that they are things YOU can change. Most things in a marriage need to be a two-person project.
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hey Charlie, God bless you for sharing your heart in this blog! It's beautiful! Admire your honesty! Don't stop please! Our marriage is going thru a rough time and it is encouraging to see others fighting through theirs. Love you and praying for you! Sam
ReplyDeleteHi Charlie - I found your blog from the comment you made on Jennifer's 40 Day Love Dare blog.
ReplyDeleteI really relate! I just love your honesty and humorous writing style. You've really inspired me. I'm going to get the book and start my own dare soon.
Come check out my blog if you'd like. I've been talking about my marriage struggles and decision to do the dare.