Day Four

It's only day four, and I feel like it's been forever. Should it really be this hard to be nice all the time? Sure does make me realize that when I thought I was always being selfless before, I really wasn't! Today the book talks about the difference in the way men and women communicate. Men are direct, women hint around. And they talk about how your thoughts when you first meet revolve around the other person, you think about them all the time. What they like, what you can do to make them smile, etc. The dare today is to contact Ray while he' s at work today and just ask how he is and if he needs anything. I'm sure that this would make a big impression, but even when he was working, it would have been crazy to do. As it stands, we will be together all day, going to the city with the kids. I'm not sure how I'll accomplish something like this, but I will try to figure something out. I wonder if The Love Dare in general is harder when your spouse is at home with you full time. I bet it is, although if they worked all the time it would be hard too. Keep on praying friends!

~~UPDATE~~

Okay, so the day went easily. Yet again, I had to catch myself before I criticized Ray, or even dirty-looked him when he did or said something that I didn't like. Other than that, it was good. At one point I wasn't feeling well, and kind of clammed up. He was so good to me, and with the kids. I loved hearing him coach one of them through peeling a very sticky sticker off of her cheek. He was patient and kind. Also, there were many times during the day when one of the kids would do or say something and Ray and I would look at each other, and see in each other's eyes the same pride and joy as we were feeling! It was so wonderful to share that with him! That said, I'm not sure if I actually asked him if he needed anything. Well, I'd asked him that yesterday so he reminded me of it and wanted to purchase something small. Of course I said yes, but I don't think that really counts.